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Give first to receive happy things. It has to happen this way cos whatever you want to receive in your life you must give first and by doing this you get back whatever you give out! Simple. You know you have the power to have everything good in your life. So by giving good feelings you get what you want, give more and get more of what you want. Everything you want wants you but you need to just give to receive them because your feelings are the power of what you think. Have you ever experienced a random act of kindness? Kids are masters at it and they do it so spontaneously with real feeling and love. Little gifts from their own creations of cards or a picture to a smiley fresh flower picked from the garden or even an old rock they have found and turned into a work of art! Don’t you just love this when you receive something special like this which has been given especially to you and has been made with heaps and heaps of love. Doesn’t it make your heart jump and joy well up inside when you thank them and they hop away singing and laughing in a world of happiness. WOW! So when you walk down the street and someone pops into your head instead of thinking oh later, listen to your heart and that little voice inside and be courageous enough to do something random for someone today. It may just be a phone call saying Hi I was thinking of you, a hug, a smile or a laugh but stop and listen and act on it. Watch how their eyes light up and their spirits lift – awesome! Love random acts of kindness. Start right here, right now as today is all we really have and tomorrow is only a promise to all of us.
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Amazing how we do stuff that we are not even aware of! We all have a lifetime of learned routines we do without even thinking. Remember how awesome it was learning to tie your own shoelaces or riding your bike for the first time and now we just do these things automatically. Our brains are brilliant and once we learn it we commit it to memory and we have it stored forever to use whenever we want to – powerful! But what about the things we have learnt that are now part of our bad behaviour or bad habits. Some old forgotten or ignored behaviours and beliefs that might be harming you in ways you never imagined on all levels. We live in such a quick fix world today and expect a quick fix but it takes years of repeated patterns to develop so it will take some time to undo the ones you want to change but you can do it. And guess what? Change hurts, just ask someone who managed to kick a lifetime 40 a day smoking habit – they will have suffered heaps in order to succeed. Any change is always prickly and uncomfortable and it’s so easy to give in and slip and slide right back to what we’ve always done instead of stepping out of your comfort zone and doing something different. Just like the old dog lying on the nail – he keeps lying there until it hurts enough to get up and move on. Hey think of one thing right now that you keep doing which you are aware of and that you really want to change so you can move forward. Could be something as simple as “I have to go out and exercise to lose weight” Get rid of the negative talk and switch your thinking to a positive way of saying this “I choose to go out and exercise so I get healthy” WOW! now get really excited seeing and feeling how different your whole body lifts when you say the positive in your mind or out loud! Feel the goose bumps of change and dance in the moment cos it means growth is happening big time and growth is powerful as it means moving forward towards living your life healthier, happier and full of the real awesome stuff! Learning new ways of doing things is exciting as you start to rewire your brilliant brain. So be strong and stick with it and not only will you cement in the new positive behaviour which will then become your norm but by perceiving everything in your life positively you will create your reality and an awesome and happy life. Exciting!Share The Love:
What would you do for your family today? You know if they were hurt or needed help you would put yourself at risk for them. Stretching and doing whatever it takes to keep them safe. Diving in and saving them if they were in danger. It’s exciting when you have a long holiday weekend which means getting to spend heaps of time with your family and getting to know them again. You know quality time with your family and anyone who you love is huge! Everything you experience is a result of what you have given out. Your destiny is in your hands and you are creating your life story right now. So what are you reading about you right now? Is it good stuff? Is your story a true story? Hey start telling the story of your amazing life with your amazing family and pass it down to new generation. You only have one family so let go of all the stuff you don’t love about your story and focus on the positives. What’s working for you and your family right here right now? Acknowledge yourself for what is working and don’t focus on what’s not. Fill your family and your life with love and all the negatives will leave you. Hey believe in yourself – you are good enough now and an awesome Dad or Mum, brother or sister, Aunt or Uncle, Poppa or Nana, nephew or niece, cousin so hold onto all the good stuff in your life and fill your life with love and all the negative feelings will leave you. Think about what your family traditions are? Do you have any? If you don’t it’s never too late to start some! Simple things – One of ours is we always celebrate family birthdays at Mills Reef in sunny Tauranga. How? Whenever we are down that way and someone in the family has had a birthday we go and celebrate. This is always such a special family get together time and everyone loves it and looks forward to it. Special memories are created in these moments and what you remember gets etched into us which is super cool. What’s your family tradition that you are doing today to create memories for tomorrow? Well worth some major thoughts around and diving in and doing something about.Share The Love:
So relationships not only with your main squeeze but your kids, your Mum and Dad and your relations and friends – how is it really going? So what’s the secret to a great relationship? People come into your life for a reason but you can change what you love about them and what you don’t love in a heartbeat. It’s like tuning in your radio – you tune in the frequency of love then everyone who is on your frequency you connect with. They are on your wave length – how cool is that! If the person you really want isn’t on your frequency don’t try and change that cos you can’t think for them. They need to be happy to receive happy – does that make sense. If something is not working right now in your relationship take a minute and put yourself in their shoes or sandals or barefeet. What do they see when they look back at you? Are you the person you really are saying you are, are you being the real you to them or are you pretending to be someone or something else? Sometimes even when we know people we hold back. So to be true to yourself and to have awesome relationships look for the stuff you love in a relationship more than any negative and it will appear big time! Imagine having the perfect relationship with all your heart. Stop noticing the negative things and give love and all the negative stuff in your relationship will disappear. Awesome things happen when you give love to your relationships. Try it you might like it and it will change your life from the moment you think it!Share The Love:
Do you ever get that sunny, sunshiney, warm fuzzy feeling when you are truly happy? Or when people around you are happy? Do you know that laughing out loud is a huge blast that resonates into every fibre of your body! Such a powerful feeling that not only makes you feel amazing but attracts people around you who are on the same frequency as you. Did you know that if you feel fear you will attract fearful people and even fearful situations into your life – no way push it away! Whatever you are feeling is the frequency you are on right now. Guess what? Change how you feel right here, right now in a heartbeat and change your frequency – how simple is that.
Happiness is scattering lots of sunshine forgetting yourself and thinking of others and smiling until your face hurts. Expect little and give heaps. Don’t be afraid to take some chances and do something awesome and live life to the fullest every moment with a purpose. Tell someone what they really mean to you and speak out when you need to, hold someone’s hand, comfort a friend, stay up late cos every second you spend being upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.. Awesome!
So surround yourself with people who genuinely make you feel happy and fulfilled for whatever frequency you chose to be on right now is what you will receive. So be mindful and take a big breath in and change your frequency. I choose Happiness and I challenge you to question why would you settle for anything else?Share The Love:
Do you want more money in your life right now?
It’s not about how much we give but how much love we put into giving that really counts!
If you don’t have all you need and you don’t feel good about money, if you were to take 100% ownership about the amount of money you receive what would you do differently right here right now?
How would you manage having money in your life right now and what would it change for you in your life? Are you really 100% clear on your goal to obtaining money and have you got a real GPS on where you are heading in your life around money? You set a goal which is great but are you asking yourself some questions about what needs to happen to achieve your goal. What are the benefits? How will your life be different if you achieve this goal around money and how what will change? Are you going to be living your life by your values when you achieve this goal. WOW! so many questions but hey you so need to know these things to really move forward in your life around money. Definitely say “YES” to money!
So what do you do? Simply by changing your language about money can change the way you feel about money. If you have experienced something you can remember it! Change some habits, get over your fears and start having the life you deserve with money. So how would it look for you right now if you had enough money to do what you need to do? What would change in your life for you right now? Start by visualizing and move forward with your vision firmly playing your movie right now about money and you and your life. Be grateful for whatever money comes your way as whatever you are grateful for multiplies as gratitude is the great multiplier! What- ever you do please don’t sabotage your goal around money as your goal for getting out of debt and having more money just because you don’t want to change and move out of your comfort zone. If you rush into something new and feel excited then stick with it don’t chew it over and then justify why you shouldn’t do it! WRONG ANSWER! Remember everything you want is right here just out of your comfort zone so go for it, you only have one life so make the most of it today and stop putting off what you really want to achieve for your life and having all the money you want to be able to live the life you really want to the max – full throttle!!! If you put love first all the money you need to live a life so full will come to you – how cool is that so grab on to it with both hands and never let it go and say YES to money and remember to be grateful!
WOW! an attitude of gratitude costs you nothing but is worth so much!
How can that change your life? Well it has changed mine…Play all day, Dance all night and feel so amazing being me! So how are you stretching forward in your life right now? Having an attitude of gratitude can really change the way you think about the little things in your life, even the dull and boring routine stuff. By giving thanks in your life you will receive big time. How cool is that! Gratitude is an awesome multiplier of life and you know it starts with two simple words…”Thank You” But you need to feel it and say it from deep within your heart with real meaning and love. So how do I do this you many ask? Easy! Start today and be grateful for all you have received from your past, everything right here and now in your life today and all you want for your life in the future as though you already have it. So stretch out and use gratitude in all areas of your life with your whole body – your senses, your voice, your physical movements, your amazing immune system that keeps you healthy and heals you, your brain which is brilliant! Give thanks that you are a miracle and can achieve anything your heart desires! With gratitude life is so full of richness and remember whatever you are grateful for multiplies! What are you waiting for start your attitude of gratitude today and carry on the next day and the next day then you’ll stop and say this is happening and this is happening – how awesome is that!Share The Love:
Wanting some different results in your life right now? Want to do something different and change some stuff? Changes mean growth and can be risky, scary and challenging! So what’s going to change when you take on that new challenge? Be mindful not to slip back into your auto-pilot. We all have our ‘auto-pilot of where we go when conflict happens and it all gets too hard, that old comfy shoe, the place where you remember what didn’t work out and the place where you beat yourself up. Do something AWESOME and make a decision to move forward and take on that you challenge!
Take a look at your view of taking on new challenges in life through new eyes and catch yourself when you have negative thoughts and stop the chatter in your head. Think about who hangs out in your head and sort out who lives there once and for all! Do you want someone in there backing for you who is helpful? Sort them out and identify them and ask yourself if they are useful and do I really need them taking up valuable space. Turn them from negative nothings to positive champions and build them up. Instead of listening to “No- body likes me – find “I like me”, “I don’t know what to do” find “I do know what to do and I can make decisions” “I need to do it right” find “ Hey it’s OK to make mistakes”
Next time you take on a new challenge take 100% ownership and shift your auto-pilot and your negative self- talk to positive self- talk and acknowledge yourself for your past successes instead of focusing on your failures. Then WOW!!! look out!!!
It’s easy to stay in our comfort zone and be comfortable. What we want most is always just outside our comfort zone. So next time you want to take on that new challenge in your life it will be uncomfortable but ditch your auto-pilot, ditch the negative chatter in your head and bust out and start laying a new path just for you. One that will move you forward one step at a time, laughing and enjoying your life along the way and be amazed at what enormous changes will start to happen in your world!!!
Boundaries – Where are you hanging out? Are you stepping out of bounds in your relationship, with your friends, in your career? Boundaries we look for them in our life and we rebel against them. When you see a sign “Stay on this track and don’t go past here or you are in danger” this is a sign to keep us safe. Ask yourself would you want to step outside this boundary and risk your life?
In your life right now do you go out of bounds? What happens? Living a life with healthy boundaries is awesome! Boundaries are there to keep us on track and keep us safe. If you have strong boundaries you understand that a healthy relationship is not controlling both your emotions but it is supporting each other in awesome personal growth.
Healthy and strong boundaries are not afraid of a tantrum, an argument or getting hurt. Where-as someone with weak boundaries is terrified! There is no boundary issue if you are doing something as a gift with no expectations then you are ok. Someone with strong boundaries is not afraid of getting hurt. If you are afraid of changes in your life and relationship then that is definitely not a healthy sign or a healthy boundary.
A lot of people lack boundaries because they have a high level of neediness or co-dependence. People who are needy or co-dependent have a desperate need for love and to be loved by others. To get this love they risk their identity and remove their boundaries. People who blame others for their own emotions and actions do so because they believe that if they put the responsibility on those around them they will receive the love they have always needed and wanted. They always are the victim so someone will come and save them eventually! These are poor boundaries and definitely not healthy.
Be aware of living a life of healthy boundaries which are looking after ourselves and letting others know when they are acting in ways we don’t like. Communicate about how someone’s behaviour is affecting you and here is something to really help you when someone is upsetting you so speak out and talk to them…
“When you… name their behaviour
“I feel… Express your emotion honestly and in a healthy way
“I want… let others know what kind of behaviours you want from them
Setting boundaries is all about taking care of you! Learning to respect and love you and keep yourself safe. If you have never set a boundary then you will never get in touch with who you really are and live your life in a healthy way. It’s all about healthy choices, remember we always have a choice and we empower ourselves every time we make healthy choices. Healthy choices involve being assertive. Respecting ourselves and saying no when we mean it! Start today and make an agreement to not accept anything less than you deserve for your life and really start living the life you love!
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WOW! So love this little guy! Did you know that legends tell us that the hummingbirds float free of time! How cool is that! They carry our hopes for love, joy and celebration. The little hummingbird’s delicate grace reminds us that life is so rich, so full of beauty and is everywhere, every personal connection has deep meaning and most of all laughter is one of life’s sweetest creations!!! Awesome! Be yourself today right here, right now and see what unfolds for you in living the life you truly love to live! Think about what is holding you back? Can you ditch some of the big coats you have put on over the years and shed them to reveal the real you? It may take time to chip away and discard those heavy coats but if you can do this you will really find what makes you spark and live the life you love. Don’t wait until everything is perfect in your life – will it ever be? Dig deep and focus on what you love with such a passion and what really sparks you and lights up your eyes! because when you find your passion you find your real purpose in life!Share The Love: